taLk about Leadership huh?

About a week ago, i had a chance to talk with one of my bosses and he told me about leadership and about leaders.

he asked me “to be a leader you should know..?”

then i answered.. “how to follow?” hahah i said that because i believe that a good leader is a good follower and before leaders became leaders, they were once, followers.

anyhow,

I laughed at myself after hearing what he said..

“No, that’s not it.. to be a leader you should know or you should have self confidence..”

then i said..

“ahh.. ok. haha”

he also told me that they chose those leaders because they know that there’s something in them or they have the quality of a leader and they are chosen not because they just want to choose them. I was listening carefully in every words he used and everything he said, i had lots of opinion to share, lots of comments about “those leaders” he was talking about but i’m not good at speaking, explaining and debating with what my boss’ believes although he was right, I have forgotten to tell him  that sometimes, people make mistakes

We, sometimes make mistakes.

Just like, how  we choose who to love, where to work and sometimes… how we choose our leaders.

Sometimes the one we love so much, we trusted 100% and the person to whom we have given our all turned out to be the wrong one, and sometimes we choose to work in some place because the environment is good and friendly, and the salary that we get is enough for us but it doesn’t make us happy. Although there are lots of good stuff there are also downside to everything. 

And how many times did we fail to choose good leaders? - People power started when people of our country realized that they were wrong when they chose “those leaders” and it only proved one thing, that we chose leaders because of what we think they can do because of their confidence, fame, power, wealth and wit but it doesn’t mean that they can be “good leaders”.

 Being smart or being witty does not prove that you can be a good leader. Confidence, wealth and power doesn’t also prove that you can be an effective leader.

A “leader” is far different from a “good or effective leader”.

Is it necessary for a leader to ask his employee who is sick to go to work or work from home? while letting the other employee file a leave because he’s going to take care of his sick uncle?. Is he the only one who can take care of his sick uncle?

If there’s an obvious mistake about one of your employee’s work, it is necessary for a leader to ask that employee to correct it, but if you ask another employee to correct it just because the employee who did it might get mad, then that’s not being an effective leader. And is it an excuse if you’re going to tell me that the leader doesn’t want any arguments that’s why he did that?

Is it right if there are lots of work, and there are 4 employees in a team and you only asked the 3 to work while letting the other one do his own thing? then..one of the 3, asked to go out to buy some lunch and you didn’t let that person buy his lunch because he needs to rush his work, and instead you told that person to just let his colleagues buy food for him.

The problem is if the leader also asked the 4th person to do some work then that leader wouldn’t have to rush the 3 employee’s works and then the work would be equally divided and can be done easilly.

If there’s still an hour left before the working hours ended and an employee asked to leave early, would you permit him to leave? and if you did, then that would be fine, but if the same situation happened again but this time it’s a different employee who asked for permission and you did not let him leave, then that’s being unfair.

All the situations above did happen. The leaders in those situations were not the same, some of the employees were not the same except for the guy who would take care of his uncle, who had an obivous mistake, the 4th employee who did nothing and the employee who were granted to leave early.

The situations above showed one thing, that they were having..i don’t know  if it’s favoritism or fear, fear for that one person.

If you’re a master with four dogs and you can’t let all of them behave how they should then you don’t deserve to be their master and if you can’t make one barking dog quiet then you don’t deserve to be called his master,and he would never follow you because that dog chooses who to follow and he doesn’t see you as a person who should be followed and if you fear that dog or make him do everything he wants then that’s not being an effective leader, you’re just letting that dog believes that he does not need to follow any orders.

I may not be good in grammar, I may not be smart or witty, I may not have the qualities of a good leader and i don’t even know if I have pointed out here what I really want to say and if i have said it all clearly and correctly but one thing is for sure.

I am a follower and I know what a good leader is.

:)